4 Reasons We Would Destroy Our Home

"Why would someone destroy their own home?" was the last question we left off with. 

I'd like to discuss destroying our home in three different segments: Destroying Planet Earth as a whole, destroying a part of Earth (nation vs. nation), and destroying our individual homes.

By destroying any part of the three homes listed above, we are giving up on the priority of protecting each other and all of the other living things on this planet. 

So why do we lose focus on this priority? In order to answer that question, let's explore the possible reasons why someone would destroy these different levels of home:

Is it because...

- They think it hurt them and they are trying to make others feel the pain they feel (or empathize with their pain)? (Think about vengeance as an emotional reaction to pain). 

- To end future pain. (Think about Ender's Game).

- Because they no longer feel connected to it?

- Or maybe because they think the afterlife will provide something better for them?

Negative Empathy and Vengeance

When someone has perceived that they have received pain from another person, sometimes they want to pay it back in kind with outward displays of aggression. This aggression is used to try to get the other person to understand emotionally the pain they received, and to return that pain for a perceived sense of justice.

We normally call this action of reciprocating displays of pain as: vengeance, or how I like to think about it - negative empathy.

However, this type of negative empathy only creates more pain. It is a destructive behavior, and many times, it is the reason that someone threatens the destruction of a homeland. But it does not have to follow-through. It can be prevented.

You can prevent vengeance, this negative reaction to perceived pain, by doing the following:

Role Modeling - Show people that there is a better way to handle their pain and that retaliation only brings more pain. Show them how to handle pain through your actions, by not retaliating. Humans are great imitators. Give them something good and constructive, not destructive, to imitate.

More education about emotions - As a species, we need to teach each other about how to properly handle emotions. Part of the way we teach is by role modeling, as stated above, however another way of teaching is just talking about it. 

Talking about emotions allows an open conversation to understanding. People do not always understand the emotional reactions of others, however when we talk about them and people can empathize by seeing the situation from their point of view, and thereby realize that a misunderstanding took place - it is then that vengeance can be avoided and we can prevent the destruction of a home.

Ender's Game and Pain Avoidance

Relating to vengeance is our second reason why someone would destroy a home: to end future pain. 

A lot of existence is centered around avoiding pain and gaining pleasure. And in the movie (and book), Ender's Game, one of the main messages seems to be that the purpose of destroying someone else's world was to avoid future pain.

When Ender kept kicking his classmate after he had already fallen and become bloody, he switched from self-defense to a rationalization that in order to end future pain, he would need to make sure that he destroyed his adversary the first time. Which is eventually the approach Ender and Colonel Graff take later by destroying an entire home planet. They wanted to prevent any future attacks. 

However, there is a problem with this response: People hold grudges.

People remember what was done to their people, and if they do not forgive the wrongs that were done to them, they will seek retaliation once they are able to - just like Earth did against the alien race in Ender's Game. They saw the destruction that the alien race was capable of, and sought a more powerful retaliation to prevent future attacks. 

So, is there a better response?

Would forgiveness have been seen as weakness? Was the fear of a future attack too strong that they felt they had to retaliate rather than forgive? Should they have delayed an attack in order to study the alien race first instead of interpret their actions as hostile?

I'm curious about your thoughts on this, because I'm not too sure of the answer. Leave a comment below and let's create a discussion about the different possible responses to preventing the destruction of someone else's home. You can also tweet your thoughts to @RMKBrainFeed, and use the hashtag #Konnection.

Since this post is getting fairly lengthy, I'm going to cut it here, and we'll pick up with the other two reasons why someone would destroy their home in my next post.

Thanks for Konnecting with me!

- RMK

Konnected to Our Home

"Nie mój cyrk, nie moje małpy."
(Not my circus, not my monkey).

-- Polish Proverb

Do people care about what's not on their doorstep? If someone doesn't have direct experience with an issue, how can it still be important to him or her?

Today, I'd like to explore this topic: Priorities.

Throughout our lives, we are given only so much time to do all the things we need or want to do, and only so much time to think about all the things we need and want to think about.

With that limited amount of time, we make choices based on what we think is most important. And a lot of the time, what we think is most important is what's right in front of our face, affecting us directly.

However, that perspective can often leave us making selfish choices. And sometimes you need to be selfish (we all need to take care of ourselves). Yet, since most of us live in some kind of civilization or social group - we need to keep in mind that there should be a balance between thinking about the self and thinking about others, right?

We never start our lives without some kind of dependence on others. Every baby must rely on its parent for milk. This interaction often creates a bond, making family important out of necessity.

But then we grow older, we wean off of our mother's milk, and gain some more freedom of choice. However, with those choices come limitations and more dependency.

Everything you nourish your body with comes from the earth. You become dependent on the availability of fresh water and the abundance of food that you can forage, grow, or buy.

And here's where my philosophy comes in: We are connected to our home.

And because of that connection, I think caring for our home should be a priority. Without Earth, without the environment that's been so carefully created (either by physics or a higher power or something we haven't considered yet), we couldn’t possibly be here.

By acknowledging that we are connected to our home, we expand our priorities. We must now care about the land, the animals that inhabit that land, the entire system and how we affect it.

And since we are conscious animals, capable of making educated choices - do you think we have a responsibility to our home to protect it? Do you think that because we also have the potential to destroy our entire planet, we should be mindful always about our impact?

Consciousness and the ability to change our environment according to our needs and wants is a gift, however it's a gift to be exercised with caution.

In some respects, we are the guardians of our home. It's why we establish global politics in the first place, really - it's not only to protect our nationalist agendas, but also to keep our home safe. Nuclear weapons shifted our priorities. It provided a real threat to our home as a whole, and because of that - we need protectors. We need people who care enough about our home to stand up to those who would destroy it.

But why would someone destroy their home? Let's talk about that in the next post.

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For now, leave a comment below if you have any thoughts on the priorities I've discussed here so far (the self, our families, our home planet).

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Thanks for Konnecting with me! :-)

Introduction

Every day I am filled with questions about our world and why we are in it. Why are we here? Is everything in life connected? What does it mean to be human? There are so many mysteries, so many interesting things to think about.

And I cannot learn them all on my own. I need your help and your input. I seek new perspectives and new understanding.

This blog is designed for discussion about the many wonders of life and finding our place in it. The range will cover many topics - from mathematics, to music, to philosophy, to religion, to language development and learning, to social and cultural issues, to psychology, to technology, and more.

I am not here to judge or to persuade you to any particular kind of thinking. I am here purely for exploration. And I hope you'll explore with me.

- R. M. Kon